A teaser of my up and coming book...

A poem by me - char 

                                                        Sexuality has come far

                                                but someone needs to raise the bar 

The war on sexual liberation is more real and more 'presence.'

more than it's ever been. 

For the unknowing minds; it's oversexualisation, merely a pocket of 

trauma-induced -'being keen'.

It's Amorousness: an enormous, ugly head - that seeks to destroy a society that has always been oppressed.

While cleverly disguising itself with views like 'it's her fault, how was she dressed?!'

And for those who cannot see it, for what it is; are merely just as blinded, if not even more oppressed.

than the lost generations before them, who were unknowingly depressed.

who would never seek to question the status que  - though fear of what, being hard-pressed? 

And yes, they had no choice but to depend; 

on her counterpart who she needed to literally survive. 

But being able to express one's sexuality; was always operating against the flow, 

of the society back then, the status quo; 

for all the woman, everywhere.. they will say the same thing. 

'It's all that we know' 

well looking back, it really was all that they new. 

through and through, no sexual expression; less it was for someone else. 

Does that just automatically make it right or does it merely make it even more crawl.

From Christians in ancient Rome, witches in medieval Europe, to communists in the Cold War, there needs to be something to centralise control and silence dissent. Now, of course, we know they were not witches. They were, in fact, women. Women who, without a doubt, were intelligent and well organised, helping each other to survive under an authoritatively programmed system. I suspect the same applies to all the other so-called historic ‘threats’.... yet why was feminine sexuality and sex in of itself so unbelievably demonised and pathologised? Well, to control women, the sexual identity is- sadly, the foundation of their existence. And this is why. Women's sexuality has been as programmed as men's contempt for it. These subconscious distortions are locked within a semi-conscious dance, and for the majority, there's no time to awake to this, let alone the drive to do the inner work to unlearn it. It's no wonder that so many are lost. 

You see, the enemy shifts shape, but the power moves stay the same. Whatever it is that society deems to be inappropriate for the overall progress of society, then it must be ostracised to the depths of a blackhole somewhere. Where the influence must remain timeless and seemingly Dissolute in of itself. Female sexuality has always been oppressed, and the oppression of women's right to sexual expression

is so prevalent; it's no surprise it's always been used as a form of control over, not only how society sees us, but more importantly, how we see ourselves, which is the more important part here. It isn't just worth being tied to sex, or mental health - even though mental health and well-being are so important and sexual expression is a completely natural part of our developing identity as we're growing up, getting to know who we are and more significantly, our part within society is also tied to who we love and HOW we love. Sex is still such a triggering subject; the intergenerational conflict cannot be avoided. 

I mean, we've literally gone from a collective of women, who couldn't even mention the word masturbation around friends or in public, to people talking about it OPENLY in coffee shops with their friends, workshops, and where the female collective is beginning to properly enjoy their sexuality - without it being met with a blockade of shame 

I had someone comment on one of my TikTok videos a few weeks ago, and it read...

                    "Sex is the closest you'll ever get to someone's soul, and people                 just turned it into a hobby, but I guess you are not ready for that                                                     conversation."  

"I even managed to have a brief one-on-one with them on a live stream. And sometimes, actively advocating for a community can be somewhat overwhelming, but then trying to defend your own life is a whole other kettle of fish. Sadly, it's much easier to judge than it is to think; even objective reasoning is almost impossible for some, particularly if the people in question are stuck in a bubble of pure prejudice and fear. If you're unsure what objective reasoning is, don't fret - I've got you covered! It's basically where you can have a thought process that is void of any feelings, opinions, or biases. It's something I get accused of a lot on these live streams - because a socially conservative view can be very accepting, and the reality is that sexuality is not just a feeling, and it's not pseudoscience. When the reality is quite the opposite. It's well-researched that it's a very complex and complicated process that is ingrained deep within our identity. Objective reasoning is a thought process where decisions and conclusions are based upon facts, data, and logic, as opposed to personal feelings. Here's another cool fact about it that you didn't know you wanted to learn... Objective reasoning relies massively on observable evidence that is measurable through experiments and data collected in said experiments. Because many people have only ever heard about the horror stories when it comes to researching sexual identity, their perspective on the validity becomes increasingly distorted by these prejudicial beliefs, meaning they struggle to have an open conversation about it and cannot properly reason with new information about it objectively.

The Logic I was trying to communicate to this individual, on that live, was ‘well if everything changes throughout our lives. Like our tastes in food and our tastes in music, to whom we love and what we look for in a partner, our entire identity and personality are merely governed by what happened to us; then how is it even possible that sexual identity isn’t the same? Surely it’s a fallacy. The person concerned was completely triggered at this point and started to really lose her shit at me. 

It happens much more than you’d care to believe. But it didn’t matter how else I could try and logically explain it to her. I was practically trying to reason with her cognitive dissonance, and if you’ve been reading my blog a while, you’ll know why that’s just wasting invaluable time and energy. There’s no point trying to continue the conversation. I could well be talking to a wall. I did keep my calm and took some time to appreciate the sheer increase in traffic to the live / and the gifts that the people who were watching it were giving me. But sadly, that’s the whole point of social media lives now; it’s an episode of EastEnders at this point / or worse, which is why people are tuning into them to be fair. Drama helps to distract us hey, from our sad and insignificant lives. hehe. 

The above image is a very simple diagram which illustrates, quite elegantly, the various components of sexual identity, which clearly displays just how much of a complex concept sexual identity is. It's made up of multiple, interconnected aspects, which can all change significantly throughout our life spans. Just like humans are always continuing to develop, our sexual identity is exactly the same.

This is a little chunk taken out from a book I'm currently writing... so if it goes a little quiet here (more so than usual) - that would be why.